Strip Clubs...

This was originally a comment on Fabulously Broke's post "Men and Strippers" www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/07/men-strippers.html but I thought it also made for a good post for the day.

My opinion on strip clubs is a catch 22:

If you're dating a guy that has issues with the way you look you shouldn't be dating him anyway- so if it takes him going to a strip club to figure out that he wants skin, bones & silicone, better late than never. Why would you want to stay with a man like that anyway?

Second, it is not unrealistic to look good, and it's unfair to judge those that do because the sight of them might make your significant other unhappy with you. IF YOU are bothered by the way that you look YOU need to change it. The fact that someone else made you notice it, could be the greatest thing thats ever happened to you, especially if you've been struggling with symptoms/disesases associated with being overweight or obese.
It comes down to one thing- WHAT PEOPLE DO TO YOU, IS ONLY WHAT YOU ALLOW THEM TO.

Scenario- Boyfriend comes home from stripclub:
makes a comment that makes you question your body.
The next thing that happens is ENTIRELY up to YOU!!!!!
Do you like your body? Are you happy & healthy? Is there anything that YOU want to change about yourself?
if so- do it!
If NOT-- you need to express this to your significant other. That this is who you are and he can like it or leave it.

If he likes it- great. If he doesnt- WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO STAY WITH SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T LOVE THE YOU THAT YOU LOVE???

Strip clubs and porn are not out there to ruin our relationships. They are out there to enhance it. I guarantee that no matter what your body looks like if you sit your hunny down for a lil impromptu lap dance (personally, after consuming a few glasses of wine, of course lol) and he loves the you that you love -- this will make for an interesting (definitely memorable) hopefully amazing night.

Now- I do not condone living at a strip club, spending lots of time there ESPECIALLY if you have children- you should be at home with your family (except for special occasions like bachelor/birthday parties, etc). A single man is a single man and can do what he wishes- but a man in a relationship should not have his balls cut off for looking at another girl naked. Girls I know you're looking at the firemen calendar where some amazing photographer had the wonderful idea of mischeviously placing hoses and ladders in all the wrong places. But if your man is frequenting the strip club- maybe there's something you can do to entice him back home. The hardest thing for girls to admit is that maybe there ARE some things about them they'd like to change- or that they MIGHT like to actually do some of the things in porn videos- they're just not sure where to start.

Your relationship is what you make of it. If you don't bend you will break. If you're boyfriends a skuzzball- leave him. If you want that donut for breakfast- have a salad for lunch and walk home. Your body is like a bank account- you can't overdraft it in the morning and not expect to pay the $30 withdrawal fee. Stop blaming strippers and porn for the lack of lust in your relationship and start taking action :)